What happened? Why did it happen? How does it impact my goals,
values, and
beliefs? How important is this to me? Are my
goals advanced or thwarted? What could be lost? Who is responsible? What can I
do now? These are some of the questions that naturally flash through our minds
as we first notice, and then reflect on the various important events in our lives. We naturally
appraise events in an effort to explain our losses. We also appraise events to
define the problem that has to be solved by the coping
strategy we adopt. Definitions
- Explaining Events
- Defining the problem.
Related Terms
Assessment, judgment, analysis, reflection, meditation, consideration, and
re-thinking can all describe thoughtful consideration of events, actions, and
alternatives.
Analyzing Events
When we suffer an important loss, we naturally seek to attribute
blame and
identify alterative responses. We can blame ourselves, others, the environment,
chance, all of these or none of these. We examine our sense of
justice as we
decide if the event and actions were fair or unfair. We consider what we can
change and what we cannot change. We look to the past, present, and future.
When an an important event occurs we are inclined to solve the emerging
problem or seize the new opportunity. Assessment is the work of defining the
problem. It is the first step in finding a solution.
What is at Stake?
Our ever-vigilant senses scan a continuous stream of information across the
environment and rapidly judge what is
important and what is unimportant. We quickly orient our attention toward observations
that are relevant based on our personal judgments of what we hold to be
interesting or important. Some of this happens instantly and involuntarily. For
example, the startle reaction is involuntary and serves to draw our attention to
loud noises and other unexpected disturbances. Surprise
is an emotion similar to the startle reaction that includes a more complex
cognitive evaluation; surprise can be spoiled by anticipation, but startle cannot be suppressed.
Fear also draws our attention to potential threats quickly and often
involuntarily. To protect us against physical threats, our
emotional brains are wired to defend even before we comprehend. Our more
careful analysis can help us sort out true dangers from false alarms.
The first appraisal decision is to determine if the event we observed is relevant to our
values, goals,
beliefs, self, or
motivations. If the event is not relevant then
we have no stake in the outcome and the event does not elicit
emotions or
induce stress. We don't interrupt our present activities to attend to these irrelevant
events. But if our safety, goals, beliefs, self-concept, or needs are
threatened, the event is appraised as important; we interrupt our
activities, and attend immediately to the situation. Emotions and their
accompanying stress serve to interrupt our routine activities and focus our
attention on the most urgent and important situation. Accompanying physiological
changes may prepare us to react quickly. The specific emotion that
results depends on the nature (plot) of the appraisal. The strength of the emotion
depends on our appraisal of the importance or impact of the event. For example, we may be
having a routine conversation when someone makes remark we find offensive. The
offense is likely to make us angry because we appraise
it as unjust and harmful. If we appraise it as only a mild insult, we may become irritated or
annoyed. These are the most mild forms of anger. If we appraise it as a strong
insult, we may become incensed, outraged, or livid. These are strong forms of
anger. If we appraise the offense as not personal, not credible, not
threatening, or not serious we can always decide not to take the bait. Here we
can choose to ignore the provocation and avoid a
dominance contest.
Loss, Threat, or Challenge
Relevant events often involve an actual loss that occurred in the past or present or
a potential future loss. Harm and loss describe damage that has already
happened. This is a loss that occurred in the past and may still have relevance
in the present. Threat refers to a potential future harm or loss. A challenge describes the decision to overcome obstacles and reduce a threat or attain some opportunity. Richard Lazarus proposes that loss, threat,
and challenge represent three distinct types of stress and associated
coping
strategies.
Choosing Options
Once an important event is recognized, we can direct our attention toward
reducing or mitigating the impact of the loss and its accompanying
stress. The coping strategy we
choose will depend on our analysis of the situation, including the nature of the
event, the time available, and the resources we can apply to reducing,
preventing, or overcoming it.
Appraisals and Reappraisals
Multiple appraisals take place over time. Our emotional brain instantly
calculates a response to important events before we can engage our cognitive
thoughts. Even after we notice our gut reactions, our first thoughts may not
fully consider all that has happened, all of the consequences and implications,
and all of the evidence and factors contributing to the event. Over time we can
reflect on the event and reappraise it. This may alter our response, change our
beliefs, modify our goals, or cause us to reexamine our
values. For example, you may
decide after a long period of reflection that you blamed others unfairly for
some incident and now you would like to apologize to them.
Somatic Markers
How we feel influences the decisions we make. Our mind consults our body
along with our brain.
Emotions Reveal Appraisals
Emotions interrupt and alert us to important events. They are accurate
indicators of what we truly regard as important. The core relational theme of
each emotion is constant; if we know the emotion we know the theme that evoked
it and the story it tells. Because our emotions depend on our appraisals, knowing the resulting emotions
can tell us a lot about the thinking that went into the appraisal. Emotions help
us read minds; they provide valuable clues to what is truly important to us and
to others. For example:
- We become surprised because the event was
unexpected. Therefore we had no foreknowledge or forewarning of the event.
- We are afraid because we perceive the threat of imminent danger. What
did we observe? Why does it represent a threat?
- We are anxious because of an uncertain threat. What are we worrying
about?
- We become angry because we blame someone for an unjust loss. What is the
loss? What goal is thwarted? How important is it? What is our sense of
justice? Why do we judge their behavior as
unjust? Why do we choose someone to blame?
- We feel guilty because we have failed to meet the another's standard of
behavior. What standards were not met? Who values those standards? Are the
standards well founded?
- We feel shame because we failed to meet our own standards. What is the
standard? Is it well founded? Does it support our values?
Did we do our best?
- We gloat when we are pleased about another
person's mishap. Why do we enjoy seeing their mistake? Why did we gloat
rather than feel compassion?
- We hate when we dislike others enough to
blame them for our own troubles. What is the true
cause of or troubles? Why do we dislike them? Why don't we respond with
empathy and compassion?
Why do we blame others?
- We are sad because we have suffered a loss. What did we lose? Why is it
important to us?
- We become depressed when we lose
hope. What
caused us to lose hope?
- We envy someone because we want what they have. Who do we envy? What do
they have? Why do we want it? Why do we believe it is valuable? What does
that tell us about our motives,
goals, and values?
- We are jealous because we fear we are unloved. Why do we feel unloved?
What does that tell us about our self?
- We become disgusted when we encounter something toxic. What do we find
toxic? Why?
- We are happy because we are progressing toward a
goal. What is the goal?
What do we regard as progress? Why is the goal important?
- We are proud because we are feeling good about ourselves. What did we do
that we judged as worthy? Is it worthy? Does it improve our
stature or only our status? What does that tell us about our
values?
- We are relieved when a threat has passed. What was the threat? What
were we in danger of losing? Why do we perceive it as valuable? How was the threat avoided or overcome?
- We are hoping for the best. What is the basis of our
optimistic outlook?
- We are in love! Who do we love? Why do we resonate together? Why are we
attracted to them? Why do we care about them?
- We are grateful for the unselfish kindness toward us. Why do we value
the gift or consideration?
- We pity someone; we feel compassion for them. Why are we moved by their
suffering?
- Ambivalence reveals unresolved conflict
between two or more goals. What goals are
conflicting? What values can resolve the conflict?
References
Stress and Emotion: A New Synthesis ,
by Richard S. Lazarus
Descartes' Error: Emotion, Reason, and the Human Brain , by Antonio Damasio
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