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Glossary
Many of the words used throughout these web
pages are briefly defined here.
Many are linked to web pages discussing the concept in depth.
Words with
multiple contrasting meanings are also listed as multiplexed
words.
- Aggression:
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Any behavior directed toward the goal of harming or injuring another living
being.
- Alliance:
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Any situation where one individual benefits from the support
of another against a third party.
- Altruism:
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An ongoing pattern of good deeds.
- Ambivalence
- The simultaneous coexistence of opposing attitudes or feelings, such as
love and hate, toward a person, object, or idea.
- Amnesty:
- A general pardon for past offenses. A variant of
forgiveness.
- Annoyance:
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A mild form of anger.
- Anger:
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An emotion triggered by a loss
attributed to a willful and unjust agent.
- Anger Display:
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Shouting, threatening, or becoming violent or abusive as an
expression of anger or dominance.
- Anxiety:
- Emotional response to an uncertain threat.
- Appeasement:
- To pacify; to create peace, quiet, ease, calm, or contentment. The human
smile is a signal of appeasement.
- Apology:
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A sincere acknowledgement of
responsibility and wrongdoing
- Architecture for Interaction
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A particular integrated model
for constructive human interaction.
- Archetype:
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Definition
- Arrogance:
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Synonym for Hubris.
- Assumption:
- An unfounded belief.
- Asymmetrical:
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Unbalanced. Uneven. Unequal. Inequitable. Lopsided. One-sided.
- Authentic:
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Real and accurate. Having a genuine and verifiable origin. Not
fake, phony, or counterfeit.
- Authentic Person:
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Anyone with aligned and congruent self
image, stature, and public
image. An authentic person understands their
authentic self and acts congruently with it.
- Authority:
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The right or legitimacy to enforce rules, give orders, or allocate resources.
The scope of positional power.
- Autonomy:
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Acting on our own unfettered choice.
- Belief:
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A statement, assertion, or theory you accept as true.
- Blame:
- Assigning responsibility for a loss.
- Bonded Pair Species:
- Definition
- Bullying
- Abuse of power.
- Calm:
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Definition - provide a page of relaxation resources.
- Catharsis:
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Definition
- Change:
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To transform or convert. To make the future different from the past.
- Cheating:
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A selfish attempt to break the rules. Riding for free.
- Chemistry
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Informal and approximate synonym for
primal messages
- Class:
- Assumed privileges.
- Classical conditioning
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The general phenomenon of learning to associate a new, neutral stimulus (e.g.
ringing the bell) with a previously existing response (e.g. salivation)
- Coalition
- A combination or alliance, especially a temporary one formed between
persons to attain a common goal
- Coercion:
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Using fear or intimidation to attempt to motivate someone or
to or reduce their available options.
- Condescending:
- Implying superior stature. Synonyms include
patronizing, snobbish, and arrogant.
- Conflict:
- Contradiction between goals.
- Control:
- The ability to change things through voluntary action. Outcomes depend
on my actions.
- Community:
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A group of people where each member has a significant
relationship
with every other member.
- Compassion:
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Unconditional kindness.
- Competence:
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successfully meeting an optimum challenge.
- Congruence:
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Agreement, harmony, alignment, conformity, or correspondence.
- Debate:
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To engage in argument by discussing opposing points
- Defiance:
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Refusing to acknowledge, or acquiesce to, the dominance of
another. [same as rebel?]
- Delegate:
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To assign work and responsibility to someone else.
- Denial:
- Failure to acknowledge evidence
- Desire:
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Definition, contrast with goal.
- Dialogue:
- Thinking together through words.
A conversation between two or more people acting as peers. An
exchange of ideas or opinions.
- Dignity:
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The quality of worth and honor intrinsic to every person. The
threshold level of stature required to meet basic
human needs.
- Discussion:
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Consideration of a subject by a group. Talk or writing in
which the pros and cons of a subject are considered.
- Disrespect:
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Discounting or challenging the worth, stature, or dominance of
another. Refusing to show respect.
- Distortions:
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Counterfactual thinking.
- Dogma:
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An assertion supported by power rather than evidence. Inquiry
is forbidden. An authoritative principle, belief, or statement of ideas or
opinion, especially one considered to be absolute truth.
- Dominance:
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The ability to inflict harm. Power based on force or threat of
force.
- Dominance Contest:
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A test or challenge to the present order of the dominance
hierarchy. Disputing your present rank in the dominance hierarchy. If the
challenge succeeds it will reorder the dominance hierarchy. If it fails, it
will affirm the dominance hierarchy.
- Dominance Hierarchy:
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The socially accepted rank ordering of individuals according
to their relative dominance. The network of relationships indicating what
individual submits to what others.
- Dyadic Relationship:
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A relationship between two entities.
- Egalitarian:
- Demonstrating the equality, especially the equal power, of all people.
- Ego:
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Synonym for “self”.
- Egotist:
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Definition
- Egotism:
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Seduced by the first-person viewpoint.
- Emotional Competency:
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The skills to recognize, interpret, and respond constructively
to emotions in yourself and others.
- Esteem:
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To hold in high regard
- Emotion:
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A mental state that has a strong feeling component.
- Empathy:
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A deep appreciation for another's situation and point of view
- Evidence:
- Observed phenomenon.
- Exasperation:
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A moderate form of anger caused by
having your patience unduly tried.
- Exchange:
- To give up one thing for another
- FAE:
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The Fundamental Attribution Error. Incorrectly attributing an
action or intent to an agent.
- Face:
- A person's sense of honor, dignity, and
self-respect.
- Faith:
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A belief unsupported by evidence.
- Ferocity:
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An intense form of anger.
- Flow:
- The state of gratification we enter when we feel completely engaged in
what we are doing. The absence of emotion or consciousness. Absorption, the
loss of consciousness, and the stopping of time.
- Forgiveness:
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Choosing to overcome your desire for revenge.
- Frustration:
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A mild form of anger.
- Fury:
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An intense form of anger.
- Gloating:
- Pleased about another's mishap
- Goal:
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An end state to be attained.
- Gratification:
- Total absorption and right action.
- Gratitude:
- Appreciating the kindness of another.
- Grieving:
- the struggle to prevent the loss.
- Guilt:
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Failure to meet the another's standard of behavior.
- Habituation:
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Definition - be sure to mention the boiled frog. Use Domjan
book
- Hebbian Learning
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Memories formed in the brain by enhancing the couplings
between concurrently firing neurons.
- Honor:
- Absence of shame. With
dignity.
- Human Nature
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The intrinsic similarities shared by all humans.
- Human Rights:
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The inalienable and just claims of all humans.
- Hubris:
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Unrealistically high self esteem.
- Humiliation:
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A loss of stature or image. Induced
shame.
- Impulse Awareness:
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Becoming aware of an emotion-driven impulse before taking
action.
- Impulse Control:
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The ability to increase the time gap between impulse and
action.
- Incensed:
- A moderate form of anger.
- Indignation:
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A moderate form of self-righteous anger
caused by trespassing into the territory established by
dignity
- Insult:
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An attack on a person's dignity,
stature, or dominance. A
demonstration of disrespect. Insult often provokes anger.
- Integrity
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Agreement, congruence, and alignment of intent (thinking),
expression (saying), and action (doing).
- Intimacy
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Exposing vulnerability.
- Intimidation:
- Definition
- Introjected regulation
- Acquiescing to an external motivation without accepting it as your own.
- Irritation:
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A mild form of anger.
- Label:
- The name given to a symbol.
- Learned Helplessness:
- Inappropriate passive behavior following uncontrollable adverse events.
The belief that your actions are futile.
- Limbic Attractors:
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High usage paths and organizing structures in our memories.
- Limbic Calculus:
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Synonym for Primal Messaging
- Limbic System:
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A group of interconnected deep brain structures, common to all
mammals, and involved in olfaction, emotion, motivation, behavior, and various
autonomic functions.
- Livid:
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An intense form of anger.
- Long Term Potentiation
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Definition - relate to Hebbian Learning
- Losing Face:
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An image change reflecting a loss in
stature.
- Magnitude gap
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Harm is more painful to the victim than it is satisfying to the aggressor. Pain
felt is always more intense than pain inflicted.
- Manipulation:
- Actions taken prior to gaining trust.
- Mood:
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Definition
- Motivation:
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Stimulating movement
- Narcissism:
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Self centered, lacking in empathy ??? See: http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/dsm-iv.html
- Need:
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A condition that must be satisfied to remain healthy.
- Offended:
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A mild form of anger.
- Operant Conditioning
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Modifying voluntary behavior through the use of consequences.
- Oppression:
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Suppressed, limited, or controlled by unjust use of force or authority.
Sustained humiliation. The victims of
tyranny.
Prejudice plus power.
- Ostracism:
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Definition
- Outrage:
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A moderate form of anger.
- Paradox:
- An apparent contraction that can be resolved by further insight.
- Passive-aggressive:
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Hostile inaction. Covert defiance. Stealth spite.
- Perception:
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Selective focus of attention
- Personality Trait:
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Intrinsic differences.
- Personal Power:
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Power derived from the intrinsic characteristics and behavior
of a person. Contrast this with positional power.
- Pissed:
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A moderate form of anger.
- Pleasure:
- Sensory indulgences, immediate delight.
- Power:
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An asymmetrical dyadic relationship.
- Positional Power:
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Power derived from a defined role, such as “the boss”.
Contrast this with personal power.
- Predator:
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One that victimizes, plunders, or destroys, especially for one's own gain.
- Pride:
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Satisfaction from our assessment of an increase in
stature
- Primal Messaging:
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Signaling between the limbic systems of two beings. This
signaling is often non-verbal, and often takes place below the level of
consciousness.
- Primal Thinking:
- A simplified form of thinking we often revert to during times of
fear, anger,
hate, or other stress. It is based on the
fallacy of polarized thinking. It often takes the form of simple,
absolute, but incorrect rules.
- Problem:
- A gap between the desired outcome and the actual outcome.
- Rage:
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An intense form of anger.
- Reactive Offenders:
- People who are hypersensitive to disparagement and rejection who react
violently.
- Rebel:
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Refusing to acknowledge, or acquiesce to, the dominance of
another. Refusal to submit.
- Reciprocity:
- Mutual exchange.
- Reconciliation:
- A friendly reunion between opponents after a fight. A bilateral understanding of a consistent or compatible account of injury
or loss. The goals of reconciliation are to ensure non repetition, healing,
and healthy co-existence.
- Relatedness:
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Definition in the context of self efficacy theory.
- Remorse:
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Feeling genuinely bad about the hurt you have caused and taking full responsibility
for the hurtful choices you made.
- Responsibility:
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Having a duty or obligation to act.
- Reparations:
- Payments intended to compensate a victim for a loss
- Retribution
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Definition
- Resentment:
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A feeling of deep and bitter anger and ill-will
- Resonance:
- Closely interdependent and coordinated movements or vibrations.
- Respect:
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Acknowledgement of a person's high stature.
Acknowledging the dignity of another.
- Revenge:
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Retaliation for humiliation
- Sarcasm:
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Definition
- Scapegoat:
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Blaming a Victim for the Group's Misfortune
- Self:
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Your physical and mental being with all its human and unique
characteristics.
- Self-esteem:
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Your own appraisal of your actual stature.
Your self image.
- Self determination theory:
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A theory of motivation based on fulfilling the needs for autonomy, competence,
and relatedness.
- Self-justification:
- Describing events in a way that preserves our pride
and reduces cognitive dissonance
- Self-Righteousness:
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Confident one is correct; intolerant of the opinions and behavior of others.
- Sensitization:
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Definition - use Domjan book.
- Snub:
- Rejecting someone with distain or contempt.
- Shame:
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Dissatisfaction from your assessment of a decrease in
stature
- Should:
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A plea to behave according to a particular (often implicit)
set of values and beliefs.
- Shunning
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Definition
- Snob:
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Selfishly and inappropriately concerned with
stature.
- Somatic markers
- Physiological signals used to make decisions.
- Speaking Truth to Power:
- Choosing what is said over who says it.
- Spite:
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Holding a grudge. Seeking revenge, often via
passive aggression.
- Staring back a thought:
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Focusing your attention, at the earliest possible instant, to
analyze an impulse or emotion. The goal is to engage your cognitive abilities
to subordinate an impulse to your values.
- Status:
- Social Rank. Endowed with valuable assets.
- Stature:
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Level of achievement attained. The ability to help.
- Symbol:
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Prototypes for Organizing and Extending Memories.
- Symmetry:
- Apparent balance
- Stonewalling:
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This cold withdrawal from
interaction is an ineffective, destructive,
passive-aggressive, response to anger.
- Submission:
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Acknowledging, and acquiescing to, the
dominance of another. The opposite of rebellion.
- Sulking:
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A passive form of anger
- Taboo
- Using power or fear to
restrict inquiry.
- Team
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A group of people who choose to be united by common goals
- Theory of Knowledge:
- How we decide what to believe.
- Tournament Species:
- Definition [link to jealousy]
- Trappings of Power:
- Symbols, furnishings, accessories, clothes, non-verbal signals, and
other items and behaviors associated with power that work to project a
powerful image.
- Trespass:
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To infringe on the privacy,
time, space, or attention of another
- Trust:
- Relying on another.
- Tyranny:
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Unrestrained exercise of power; abuse of authority.
- Tyrant:
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Anyone who exercises power in a harsh, cruel, or destructive
manner. An oppressive, harsh, arbitrary person.
- Value:
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A principle considered worthwhile or valuable. A standard of
judgment or appraisal. (contrast with belief.)
- Vengeance:
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Retaliation for humiliation or other injury.
- Vibes
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Informal and approximate synonym for
primal messages
- Violence:
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Harm to another
- Vulnerability:
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Susceptible to being injured.
- Whistleblowing:
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A communication intended to expose a wrongdoing by those in
power.
- Wrath:
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An intense form of anger.
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